What is couple therapy?
‘Being ‘stuck in old
patterns of interaction is a common human experience since we all bring to our
new relationships the cumulative
learning from the past’ (Brief Therapy With Couples by Maria Gilbert &
I see my role as a couple therapist to help you to become
‘unstuck’ and free from old, restrictive pattern in your relationship. As a
couple therapist I facilitate the following proces
- To raise awareness of the non problem solving
repetitive pattern your relationship
- To develop and test strategies that remedy
- To teach you how to communicate in a ‘non violent’
way with each other and how to listen in new way’s, with
empathy and understandin
- To teach you how to communicate in a non
judgemental and non blaming way and still express your feelings and needs
- To raise awareness about different attachment
styles and how this affects the kind of partner you unconsciously choose.
Please find some of the major attachment
styles described by Bartholomew and Horrowitz
What is your tendency?
It is easy for me to become emotional close
to others. I am comfortable depending on others and having others depend on me.
I don’t worry about being alone or having others not accept me.
I am comfortable without close
relationships. It is very important to me to feel independent and self-sufficient,
and I prefer to not depend on others or have others depend on me.
I am uncomfortable getting close to others.
I want emotionally close relationships, but I find it difficult to trust other’s
completely or to depend on them. I sometimes worry that I will be hurt if I
allow myself to become close to others.
I want to be completely emotionally
intimate with others, but I often find that others are reluctant to get as
close as I would like. I am uncomfortable to be without close relationships,
but sometimes I worry that other’s don’t value me as much as I value them.